Practice 5 of 13

Forgive

Stop waiting to get even.

Key points

  • The practice: Stop waiting to get even.
  • Try this week: Think of one small grudge. Let it go this week. Tell them, or just decide.
  • The good news: Before you forgive anyone, you are forgiven. Jesus forgave the people who nailed him to the cross, and he forgives you.
In this article
  1. What Jesus did and taught
  2. Why it matters
  3. Try this week
  4. A question to carry
  5. With kids
  6. Go deeper
  7. The good news

What Jesus did and taught

The father who ran

A son takes his share of the family money early and wastes all of it.

Broke and hungry, he heads home, practicing an apology.

His father sees him far off and runs to him, hugs him, and throws a party before the apology is even finished.

“He was lost, and is found.”

Luke 15:24

Find it: Luke 15:11–32

Read Luke 15:11–32

11 He said, “A certain man had two sons. 12 The younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of your property.’ He divided his livelihood between them. 13 Not many days after, the younger son gathered all of this together and traveled into a far country. There he wasted his property with riotous living. 14 When he had spent all of it, there arose a severe famine in that country, and he began to be in need. 15 He went and joined himself to one of the citizens of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed pigs. 16 He wanted to fill his belly with the husks that the pigs ate, but no one gave him any. 17 But when he came to himself he said, ‘How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough to spare, and I’m dying with hunger! 18 I will get up and go to my father, and will tell him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in your sight. 19 I am no more worthy to be called your son. Make me as one of your hired servants.” ’ 20 “He arose, and came to his father. But while he was still far off, his father saw him, and was moved with compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. 21 The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ 22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe, and put it on him. Put a ring on his hand, and sandals on his feet. 23 Bring the fattened calf, kill it, and let’s eat, and celebrate; 24 for this, my son, was dead, and is alive again. He was lost, and is found.’ Then they began to celebrate. 25 “Now his elder son was in the field. As he came near to the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 He called one of the servants to him, and asked what was going on. 27 He said to him, ‘Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fattened calf, because he has received him back safe and healthy.’ 28 But he was angry, and would not go in. Therefore his father came out, and begged him. 29 But he answered his father, ‘Behold, these many years I have served you, and I never disobeyed a commandment of yours, but you never gave me a goat, that I might celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this your son came, who has devoured your living with prostitutes, you killed the fattened calf for him.’ 31 “He said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. 32 But it was appropriate to celebrate and be glad, for this, your brother, was dead, and is alive again. He was lost, and is found.’ ”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

Why it matters

This is how Jesus described God: running toward us.

Forgiving someone frees you as much as them.

Try this week

Think of one small grudge. Let it go this week. Tell them, or just decide.

Low-energy week? Pray for someone who annoyed you today, even one sentence.

Forgiving doesn’t mean what happened was okay, and it doesn’t mean staying close to someone who hurts you. If someone harmed you badly, forgiveness can take a long time, and that’s alright.

A question to carry

What would it feel like to put that grudge down?

With kids

Practice the words together: “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you.”

Go deeper

The good news

Before you forgive anyone, you are forgiven. Jesus forgave the people who nailed him to the cross, and he forgives you.

You don’t earn anything by doing this practice. Why it starts with grace