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Advent at home

Four weeks, one more candle each week, five minutes at the table. For families with children of any age, and for anyone keeping Advent at home. Advent begins Sunday, November 29.

What you need

  • Four candles. Any four will do. A ring of greenery around them is traditional. Many wreaths use blue or purple candles, and some have one pink candle for the third week, the week of joy.
  • A fifth, white candle in the middle for Christmas Eve, if you like.
  • Stop whenever someone is done. One step counts. Answers can be said, pointed to, drawn, or skipped.
  • Five minutes, at dinner or before bed. Sunday is the usual night to light a new candle; you can light the week’s candles again on any evening that week.

With small children, battery candles work just as well. Never leave a lit candle alone.

Every week has the same five steps, so children learn them: light, read, ask, pray, sing.

Week 1 · Sunday, November 29

Hope: keep watch

Light

Light one candle. One person says:

We light a candle for hope.

Jesus is the light of the world.

Read

Jesus tells his friends to stay awake and watch, because he is coming.

Read Mark 13:24–37

24 But in those days, after that oppression, the sun will be darkened, the moon will not give its light, 25 the stars will be falling from the sky, and the powers that are in the heavens will be shaken. 26 Then they will see the Son of Man coming in clouds with great power and glory. 27 Then he will send out his angels, and will gather together his chosen ones from the four winds, from the ends of the earth to the ends of the sky. 28 “Now from the fig tree, learn this parable. When the branch has now become tender, and produces its leaves, you know that the summer is near; 29 even so you also, when you see these things coming to pass, know that it is near, at the doors. 30 Most certainly I say to you, this generation will not pass away until all these things happen. 31 Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away. 32 But of that day or that hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. 33 Watch, keep alert, and pray; for you don’t know when the time is. 34 “It is like a man, traveling to another country, having left his house, and given authority to his servants, and to each one his work, and also commanded the doorkeeper to keep watch. 35 Watch therefore, for you don’t know when the lord of the house is coming, whether at evening, or at midnight, or when the rooster crows, or in the morning; 36 lest coming suddenly he might find you sleeping. 37 What I tell you, I tell all: Watch.”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

What is something you are waiting for?

Or, a simpler one: Is waiting easy or hard for you? Thumbs up or thumbs down.

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

Come, Lord Jesus.Help us wait with hope,and help us notice your love. Amen.

Sing, if you like

A verse of any Advent song you know, or one of these: Savior of the Nations, Come, Comfort, Comfort Now My People, Wake, Awake, for Night Is Flying, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel. Then blow the candles out.

Week 2 · Sunday, December 6

Peace: get ready

Light

Light two candles: last week’s, and one more. One person says:

We light two candles for hope and peace.

Jesus is the light of the world.

Read

John the Baptist calls out in the wilderness: get ready, someone is coming.

Read Mark 1:1–8

1 The beginning of the Good News of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. 2 As it is written in the prophets, “Behold, I send my messenger before your face, who will prepare your way before you: 3 the voice of one crying in the wilderness, ‘Make ready the way of the Lord! Make his paths straight!’ ” 4 John came baptizing in the wilderness and preaching the baptism of repentance for forgiveness of sins. 5 All the country of Judea and all those of Jerusalem went out to him. They were baptized by him in the Jordan river, confessing their sins. 6 John was clothed with camel’s hair and a leather belt around his waist. He ate locusts and wild honey. 7 He preached, saying, “After me comes he who is mightier than I, the thong of whose sandals I am not worthy to stoop down and loosen. 8 I baptized you in water, but he will baptize you in the Holy Spirit.”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

John said, “Get ready.” How could our family get ready for Jesus this week?

Or, a simpler one: Pick one: make a card for someone, tidy a room together, or pray at bedtime.

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

Come, Lord Jesus.Help us get ready for you,and make our home a place of peace. Amen.

Sing, if you like

A verse of any Advent song you know, or one of these: Savior of the Nations, Come, Comfort, Comfort Now My People, Wake, Awake, for Night Is Flying, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel. Then blow the candles out.

Week 3 · Sunday, December 13

Joy: good news is near

Light

Light three candles: last week’s, and one more. One person says:

We light three candles for hope, peace and joy.

Jesus is the light of the world.

Read

John the Baptist again, and the good news everyone was waiting for.

Read John 1:6–8, 19–28

6 There came a man, sent from God, whose name was John. 7 The same came as a witness, that he might testify about the light, that all might believe through him. 8 He was not the light, but was sent that he might testify about the light.

19 This is John’s testimony, when the Jews sent priests and Levites from Jerusalem to ask him, “Who are you?” 20 He declared, and didn’t deny, but he declared, “I am not the Christ.” 21 They asked him, “What then? Are you Elijah?” He said, “I am not.” “Are you the prophet?” He answered, “No.” 22 They said therefore to him, “Who are you? Give us an answer to take back to those who sent us. What do you say about yourself?” 23 He said, “I am the voice of one crying in the wilderness, ‘Make straight the way of the Lord,’ as Isaiah the prophet said.” 24 The ones who had been sent were from the Pharisees. 25 They asked him, “Why then do you baptize, if you are not the Christ, nor Elijah, nor the prophet?” 26 John answered them, “I baptize in water, but among you stands one whom you don’t know. 27 He is the one who comes after me, who is preferred before me, whose sandal strap I’m not worthy to loosen.” 28 These things were done in Bethany beyond the Jordan, where John was baptizing.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

Who could we bring some gladness to this week?

Or, a simpler one: What makes you glad? Name one thing.

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

Come, Lord Jesus.Fill us with your joy,and help us share it. Amen.

Sing, if you like

A verse of any Advent song you know, or one of these: Savior of the Nations, Come, Comfort, Comfort Now My People, Wake, Awake, for Night Is Flying, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel. Then blow the candles out.

Week 4 · Sunday, December 20

Love: God comes close

Light

Light four candles: last week’s, and one more. One person says:

We light four candles for hope, peace, joy and love.

Jesus is the light of the world.

Read

News that God is coming as a baby, to live with us.

Read Luke 1:26–38

26 Now in the sixth month, the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, 27 to a virgin pledged to be married to a man whose name was Joseph, of David’s house. The virgin’s name was Mary. 28 Having come in, the angel said to her, “Rejoice, you highly favored one! The Lord is with you. Blessed are you among women!” 29 But when she saw him, she was greatly troubled at the saying, and considered what kind of salutation this might be. 30 The angel said to her, “Don’t be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. 31 Behold, you will conceive in your womb and give birth to a son, and shall name him ‘Jesus.’ 32 He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, 33 and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever. There will be no end to his Kingdom.” 34 Mary said to the angel, “How can this be, seeing I am a virgin?” 35 The angel answered her, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. Therefore also the holy one who is born from you will be called the Son of God. 36 Behold, Elizabeth your relative also has conceived a son in her old age; and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren. 37 For nothing spoken by God is impossible.” 38 Mary said, “Behold, the servant of the Lord; let it be done to me according to your word.” The angel departed from her.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

Why do you think God came as a baby, and not as a king?

Or, a simpler one: What does a baby need? Who takes care of a baby?

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

Come, Lord Jesus.You came to us small and poor.Teach us to love the way you love. Amen.

Sing, if you like

A verse of any Advent song you know, or one of these: Savior of the Nations, Come, Comfort, Comfort Now My People, Wake, Awake, for Night Is Flying, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel. Then blow the candles out.

December 17 to 23: one ancient line each evening, each a name for Jesus that ends with “come.” Older children like these. The O Antiphons

Christmas Eve · Thursday, December 24

The light has come

Light

Light all four candles, then the white one in the middle, if you have it. One person says:

The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light.

Jesus is the light of the world.

Isaiah 9:2 and John 8:12, World English Bible.

Read

The story of the first Christmas: a baby laid in a feeding box, and the news told first to shepherds.

Read Luke 2:1–20

1 Now in those days, a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be enrolled. 2 This was the first enrollment made when Quirinius was governor of Syria. 3 All went to enroll themselves, everyone to his own city. 4 Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judea, to David’s city, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and family of David; 5 to enroll himself with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him as wife, being pregnant. 6 While they were there, the day had come for her to give birth. 7 She gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in bands of cloth, and laid him in a feeding trough, because there was no room for them in the inn. 8 There were shepherds in the same country staying in the field, and keeping watch by night over their flock. 9 Behold, an angel of the Lord stood by them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. 10 The angel said to them, “Don’t be afraid, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy which will be to all the people. 11 For there is born to you today, in David’s city, a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. 12 This is the sign to you: you will find a baby wrapped in strips of cloth, lying in a feeding trough.” 13 Suddenly, there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly army praising God, and saying, 14 “Glory to God in the highest, on earth peace, good will toward men.” 15 When the angels went away from them into the sky, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem, now, and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has made known to us.” 16 They came with haste, and found both Mary and Joseph, and the baby was lying in the feeding trough. 17 When they saw it, they publicized widely the saying which was spoken to them about this child. 18 All who heard it wondered at the things which were spoken to them by the shepherds. 19 But Mary kept all these sayings, pondering them in her heart. 20 The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, just as it was told them.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

Ask everyone

Who would you have run to tell, if you were one of the shepherds?

Pray

Thank you, God, for Jesus, born for us. Glory to God in the highest, and on earth, peace. Amen.

Sing

“Silent Night,” or any carol you all know.

For the weeks in between

A bedtime prayer with kids · Grace before meals · Advent: the four Sundays and the hymns

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