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Lent at home

Lent is forty days of getting ready for Easter. Here is Ash Wednesday, then five minutes each week at the table, for families with children of any age. Lent begins Wednesday, February 10.

How it works

  • Once a week, at dinner or before bed. Sunday is the usual night, but any night works.
  • The same five steps each time: begin, read, ask, pray, and one small thing to do that week.
  • The three old practices of Lent are prayer, giving and fasting. Here they are family-sized, and nobody keeps score.
  • Stop whenever someone is done. One step counts. Answers can be said, pointed to, drawn, or skipped.

Some families put away one thing for Lent, like a bowl of sweets, or the word “Alleluia” written on a card, and bring it back out on Easter morning.

Ash Wednesday · Wednesday, February 10

Remember: you are dust, and you are loved

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, the way Luther taught households to begin: touch your forehead, your chest, then one shoulder and the other. Then say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

Jesus teaches about praying, giving and fasting: do it quietly, for God, not to be seen.

Read Matthew 6:1–6, 16–21

1 “Be careful that you don’t do your charitable giving before men, to be seen by them, or else you have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. 2 Therefore when you do merciful deeds, don’t sound a trumpet before yourself, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may get glory from men. Most certainly I tell you, they have received their reward. 3 But when you do merciful deeds, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand does, 4 so that your merciful deeds may be in secret, then your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly. 5 “When you pray, you shall not be as the hypocrites, for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Most certainly, I tell you, they have received their reward. 6 But you, when you pray, enter into your inner room, and having shut your door, pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly.

16 “Moreover when you fast, don’t be like the hypocrites, with sad faces. For they disfigure their faces, that they may be seen by men to be fasting. Most certainly I tell you, they have received their reward. 17 But you, when you fast, anoint your head, and wash your face; 18 so that you are not seen by men to be fasting, but by your Father who is in secret, and your Father, who sees in secret, will reward you. 19 “Don’t lay up treasures for yourselves on the earth, where moth and rust consume, and where thieves break through and steal; 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust consume, and where thieves don’t break through and steal; 21 for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones: “Jesus says, do good things quietly. God sees.”

Choose together

Lent lasts forty days, not counting Sundays. Which one thing will our family try?

  • Pray together at bedtime
  • Put coins in a jar, to give away at Easter
  • No screens at dinner
  • One kind thing for someone each week

Or, a simpler one: Point to one.

Pick just one. You can change it later.

Pray

From Psalm 51, the prayer the church says on this day. Say a line, and let them say it after you.

Create in me a clean heart, O God.Renew a right spirit within me. Amen.

In plain words God, help me want what is good, and help me start again.

Psalm 51:10, World English Bible.

This week

Many churches hold a short Ash Wednesday service where the pastor marks a small cross of ashes on each forehead and says words from Genesis: “You are dust, and you shall return to dust.” Children are welcome. If touch or crowds are hard, you can ask for a blessing without ashes, sit near the back, or just watch.

In plain words It can sound sad. It means our lives are short, and God holds every one of them.

Find a church near you

Week 1 of Lent · Sunday, February 14

Saying no

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, and say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

Jesus is baptized by John, driven by the Spirit into the wilderness for forty days of testing by Satan, and then begins preaching in Galilee.

Read Mark 1:9–15

9 In those days, Jesus came from Nazareth of Galilee, and was baptized by John in the Jordan. 10 Immediately coming up from the water, he saw the heavens parting, and the Spirit descending on him like a dove. 11 A voice came out of the sky, “You are my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.” 12 Immediately the Spirit drove him out into the wilderness. 13 He was there in the wilderness forty days tempted by Satan. He was with the wild animals; and the angels were serving him. 14 Now after John was taken into custody, Jesus came into Galilee, preaching the Good News of God’s Kingdom, 15 and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and God’s Kingdom is at hand! Repent, and believe in the Good News.”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

Jesus was hungry and tired, and still said no to the easy way. What is something hard for you to say no to?

Or, a simpler one: What is hard to stop doing when it’s time to stop?

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Lord Jesus, you were tempted too.When we want to do something we shouldn’t,help us choose what is good. Amen.

In plain words Tempted means wanting to do something you know isn’t good.

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

This week

Go without one small thing this week, like a show, a game or a treat, and put what it would have cost toward something for someone else. Choose something that isn’t a meal or food anyone needs; for anyone who finds eating hard, pick something that isn’t food at all.

Week 2 of Lent · Sunday, February 21

Praying

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, and say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

Jesus foretells his suffering, death, and rising; he rebukes Peter and says those who follow him must deny themselves and take up their cross.

Read Mark 8:31–38

31 He began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things, and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again. 32 He spoke to them openly. Peter took him, and began to rebuke him. 33 But he, turning around, and seeing his disciples, rebuked Peter, and said, “Get behind me, Satan! For you have in mind not the things of God, but the things of men.” 34 He called the multitude to himself with his disciples, and said to them, “Whoever wants to come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. 35 For whoever wants to save his life will lose it; and whoever will lose his life for my sake and the sake of the Good News will save it. 36 For what does it profit a man, to gain the whole world, and forfeit his life? 37 For what will a man give in exchange for his life? 38 For whoever will be ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, the Son of Man also will be ashamed of him, when he comes in his Father’s glory, with the holy angels.”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

What is one thing you noticed in this story?

Or, a simpler one: Who was in the story? Name one person.

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Lord Jesus, we want to follow you.When things are hard,please help us. Amen.

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

This week

Pray: each night this week, everyone names one person who needs God’s help. Saying a name is a whole prayer.

Week 3 of Lent · Sunday, February 28

Giving

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, and say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

At Passover, Jesus drives the sellers and money changers out of the temple and says that if this temple is destroyed he will raise it in three days.

Read John 2:13–22

13 The Passover of the Jews was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14 He found in the temple those who sold oxen, sheep, and doves, and the changers of money sitting. 15 He made a whip of cords, and threw all out of the temple, both the sheep and the oxen; and he poured out the changers’ money and overthrew their tables. 16 To those who sold the doves, he said, “Take these things out of here! Don’t make my Father’s house a marketplace!” 17 His disciples remembered that it was written, “Zeal for your house will eat me up.” 18 The Jews therefore answered him, “What sign do you show us, seeing that you do these things?” 19 Jesus answered them, “Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.” 20 The Jews therefore said, “It took forty-six years to build this temple! Will you raise it up in three days?” 21 But he spoke of the temple of his body. 22 When therefore he was raised from the dead, his disciples remembered that he said this, and they believed the Scripture, and the word which Jesus had said.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

What is one thing someone near us needs, that we could help with?

Or, a simpler one: Point to one thing in our house we could give to someone.

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Lord Jesus, thank you for what we have.Help us notice who needs help,and share with them. Amen.

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

This week

Give: choose one thing together to give away this week, to a food pantry, a neighbor, or someone who needs it. Decide where it goes before you choose, so it’s easier to pick.

Week 4 of Lent · Sunday, March 7

Forgiving

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, and say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

As Moses lifted up the serpent, the Son of Man must be lifted up, for God so loved the world that he gave his only Son.

Read John 3:14–21

14 As Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of Man be lifted up, 15 that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. 17 For God didn’t send his Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world should be saved through him. 18 He who believes in him is not judged. He who doesn’t believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the one and only Son of God. 19 This is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the light; for their works were evil. 20 For everyone who does evil hates the light, and doesn’t come to the light, lest his works would be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his works may be revealed, that they have been done in God.”

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

Think quietly: is there someone you’d like to say sorry to, or someone you’d like to forgive? You don’t have to say who.

Or, a simpler one: What are some ways to say sorry? (Saying it, a note, a drawing, a hug if they want one.)

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Lord Jesus, you forgive us.Help us say sorry,and help us forgive each other. Amen.

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

This week

Forgive: say sorry or forgive someone this week if you can, out loud, in a note, or with a drawing. Forgiving doesn’t mean what happened was okay. If something feels too big or not safe, tell a grown-up you trust instead.

Week 5 of Lent · Sunday, March 14

Serving

Begin

Make the sign of the cross if you like, and say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Read

Some Greeks ask to see Jesus; he speaks of a grain of wheat that must die to bear fruit, and a voice from the sky answers his prayer.

Read John 12:20–33

20 Now there were certain Greeks among those that went up to worship at the feast. 21 These, therefore, came to Philip, who was from Bethsaida of Galilee, and asked him, saying, “Sir, we want to see Jesus.” 22 Philip came and told Andrew, and in turn, Andrew came with Philip, and they told Jesus. 23 Jesus answered them, “The time has come for the Son of Man to be glorified. 24 Most certainly I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains by itself alone. But if it dies, it bears much fruit. 25 He who loves his life will lose it. He who hates his life in this world will keep it to eternal life. 26 If anyone serves me, let him follow me. Where I am, there my servant will also be. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him. 27 “Now my soul is troubled. What shall I say? ‘Father, save me from this time?’ But I came to this time for this cause. 28 Father, glorify your name!” Then a voice came out of the sky, saying, “I have both glorified it, and will glorify it again.” 29 Therefore the multitude who stood by and heard it said that it had thundered. Others said, “An angel has spoken to him.” 30 Jesus answered, “This voice hasn’t come for my sake, but for your sakes. 31 Now is the judgment of this world. Now the prince of this world will be cast out. 32 And I, if I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself.” 33 But he said this, signifying by what kind of death he should die.

World English Bible, public domain. The whole chapter on Free Scripture → · Read in the NRSVue, the ELCA’s standard translation →

For little ones, the one line above is enough.

Ask everyone

Jesus knew the cross was coming, and he kept going. What helps you keep going when something is hard?

Or, a simpler one: Who helps you when something is hard?

There are no wrong answers. You can say it, point, draw it, or pass. Grown-ups answer too.

Pray

Lord Jesus, you kept going for us.Help us be brave,and help us get ready for Easter. Amen.

Say a line, and let them say it after you.

This week

Serve: do one kind thing for someone this week without being asked, like setting the table, making a card, or helping a neighbor.

Next: Holy Week. Palm Sunday, the Last Supper, the cross, the quiet Saturday, and Easter morning, a few minutes each day. Holy Week and Easter at home

For the days in between

A bedtime prayer with kids · Grace before meals · Night Prayer

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